Sex addiction

[27th OCT 2008, Monday, 9.30pm]

To my surprise, im writting the topic that people would try to avoid off. I came across this article [SEX ADDITION: NOT JUST FOR MEN] from The Sunday Time, 26th OCT 2008 by Anita Chaudhuri.

What do we mean why sex addiction? Sex and by extension, love are highly addictive to certain people, as compare with cocaine-addiction and love-struck show almost identical areas of brain activity. According to experts, the number of sex addicts is rising, and surprisingly, they are not all men. In US, 30% of people that come in for treatment of sex addiction are female.

There is a pattern that obvious, female sex addicts crave intimacy. Female use sex and seduction to create closeness with a guy, but once they get it, they freak out and move on to the next one. According to Serratt, although female crave for intimacy, he believes females sex addicts often scared of a man getting to know the "real" them. Sex addicts often say, "Oh, I can never meet the right man", but that's because as soon as a guy turns up who is everything they want, it scares them and they kill it. Finding excuses, "Oh, he is lazy/not the right one for me/broke, then dump him.

Female addicts always thought they needed male attention in order to feel good about them self, but ironically, through therapy help them to see that, the need for male validation causing them to threat them self, and their body, as something with no value ~ The confession of female addicts.

For those who feel sex is everything for them, Im sorry to say, without having sex, we as human still can survive. Sex is not everything and dont torture yourself with your body.

I always have this thinking that, I hope i will be the first for my husband. But the surrounding told me that it is not POSSIBLE. I had a friend, recently told me about her active sex behaviour with her bf. I was shocked at first, this is because she told me once, that she cant accept the fact, that she would perform sex with her bf before marriage. And yet, she DID IT. Am speechless at first, and she told me that her bf was much older than she is, and he requested for it. Others than this conversation that i encounter, most of the cases happened, due to the request from BF. They even requested their gf to perform oral sex. Unbelievable, but it is true. Unable to accept the fact that why we girls need to perform oral sex. [JUST A THOUGHT OF IT MAKE ME FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE]. **SHIVERING**

But in reality, how many couples that can proud say that, im the FIRST for my husband, or Honey, You my the ONLY one. I accepted the reality and doesnt hope much. As long as you know what you doing with your body and people's body, and held responsible for it.

As come to reality, i accepted the norms of human, the thirst for sex. Once you did it, you crave for more ^.^ As for myself, i never did it before, and i would think twice, because I doesnt want to next sex addict.

No offenses. Just one piece of my mind.

Cheers, and hope some of you will enjoy this.

^.^

LIM HUI TENG